How to Change Your Life: 4 Tips and Humbling Beginnings
- Kevin Dumapit
- Apr 8, 2015
- 4 min read
A lot of people have come to me over the years and have always wondered what keeps me happy. Many have even taken time out to compliment me about the confidence I may display and ask if I have always been that way. But to tell you the truth, I used to be the complete opposite; always complaining or saying that imfamous, "why does this always happen to me." I'm sure many of you feel that way and I don't blame you. It happens. So what did I do about it?
I don't remember when my ephiphany came although I know the steps I took to currently get where I am in mind, body and spirit. But before we go on about those said steps, I have to tell you about the realization of wanting to change. What really stood out to me on this journey was looking at myself in an unbias matter. I asked myself, "If I weren't Kevin but I
was someone else looking at me, what kind of persona or aura do I give off?" I saw myself in the mirror, realized I wasn't hanging out with friends, had no direction and most importantly, no idea why the fuck I had a purpose in life. So yeah....the realization wasn't good.
Recently, I had a convo with a couple friends (both trainers and awesome ones in their own right) about why they were so encouraging and positive. Our convo was nothing but laughs, good times and really, a genuine meeting of the minds. One current theme we agreed on is change: change is amazing and you can't go on with life without it. Change is life and its good for you. A little awkward at first but it is a must. The photo above is my great friend Errol, who started his own company called PR Your Life. You crossfit heads probably know "PR" means personal record. But fuck look how chiseled he got! You don't get that way unless you really want to. He did and now he is changing lives. Go Errol, I fucking love you for being you. Below are some tips you could take away and hopefully change your life too.
1. Acknowledge that you want to change
This is the first step to becoming a new your. Acknowledging change tells you that you are ready to put behind all that bullshit that was holding you back in the first place. Yes, things will be different from here on out but you know what. Fuck it. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Your body and mind will go through the fight or flight mode and you learn to deal with whatever is ahead. In the process, you grow stronger, wiser and more confident.
2. Write down things that you want to change and actually do something about it
Doing this enables you to write down your insecurities and see them with your own eyes...on paper. The best part is that you don't even have to share it with anyone. This is for you. Do it for real and with honesty. Not being honest? You only cheat yourself.
3. Go after something you have always wanted to do
Whether it is a new hobby, a start up or a trip, just do it. The networking opportunities that are going to present itself are ones not to miss. You meet amazing people that are like-minded or just plain motivating. They will allow you to pick their brain; such as learning from their mistakes so you don't have to make them yourself. Most importantly, you make a ton of new friends.
4. Believe in yourself....seriously
It sounds corny but it fucking works. You just have to keep telling yourself it is possible and that you are capable. Enable yourself to unlock your potential. Give yourself that chance. I mean, if you are already telling yourself that you "can't" then try whatever it is you dont believe it and you just might do that thing. I've heard it so many times from climbers that ask me for advice on how to get the next move. I always say, okay...if you can't, then why are you still holding on? Try the said move and if you can't, ill give it to you.....for now. Like I always tell people that are insecure about not believing in themselves, "Believe. You're worth it." Look in the mirror and say it to yourself every day. Say you are fucking awesome and that you will own this world and everything you do to your standard. Do it because you are worth it.
If you have read this, I hope it is inspiring enough for you to get out there and make a difference in your life. I guarantee once you change yours, you will be inspired to change those of others and share your story. Check out this pic below. Its my friend Mike and his clients that he has grown and grown to love over the years. He inspires and motivates people to change their lives; also in mind and in spirit.
Follow your heart with passion as I did (and my two examples above) and you can never go wrong. You start at the bottom but ascend to the top. The journey is breathtaking and something you will remember for years to come. Now go do it ;-)
You can find:
Mike at NYSC Colonia NJ or contact him here.
Errol at PRyourLife.isagenix.com
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